It's funny how we think something is going to be one way and then when that time comes it's nothing like we planned. When I was pregnant I said " I'm going to breastfeed with no problem because I won't substitute with formula or give her a binky. Also I'm going to nurse her within 1 hour of her being born." Well, my daughter was born Jan 17, 2010 at 5lbs 11oz. I didn't get to nurse her within that hour like I planned. She was so sleepy from all the meds that they gave me for my c-section that she didn't wake to eat until 1:12 am (she was born 1:36pm) She was always latched yet she was losing weight like crazy. I felt like I was doing something wrong. I even had thoughts that I might just HAVE to give her formula even though I didn't want to. It didn't help that when we went to her weight check just 5 days after she was born she was now 4lbs 13oz. It broke my heart thinking that my milk wasn't doing it for her. I'm glad that I had a cousin and an aunt to talk to they were reassuring and made me have that boost again.. Yes, I knew I could do it! Well, she started gaining weight slowly but it didn't matter she was packing on the ounces!
I feed her when she wants. I don't care about minutes and the time anymore. The only thing that I need to get down is what side she was on last. Since she eats so often I never remember! We did it and I wouldn't change anything. This way when I do have another one I will be prepared just in case this happens again.
Another thing is I was so worried about her not having a crib when I found out I was pregnant with her. My son didn't have one and slept in a playpen. He wouldn't go to sleep if anyone was around. If Shelby or I were holding him he would just cry until we swaddled him and put him in his playpen with then lights off and the door closed. He HAD to have his heartbeat music therapy CD on also (until 2yrs) without it he wouldn't sleep! Well, I wanted her to have a crib and not have to sleep in a playpen. One of my aunts let me borrow one that they had for her grandson Eddie. A friend of mine from church gave me a bedding set also. I thought she was going to go to sleep in there every night and for naps. Since that's the way Eddie Rey was. It didn't happen like that. She is my high need baby who LOVES to be held 24/7. I don't even sleep in our room. I have a new bed in there for me as well as her crib. Her and I sleep in the recliner in the living room. It's just so much easier when she wants to eat to just feed her there. I've tried sleeping in my bed with her and she doesn't like me feeding her laying down. So, there is no use in us even having a crib!
I also wanted to have a nice pretty little swing for her. It even matches her bedding! She NEVER wants to be in there. The longest she was willing to be in there was 2 min if that!
I have a bassinet that a friend let me borrow..of course she doesn't sleep in it. I have junk in there now! Her playpen that we have that has a bassinet in it and changing table is still folded up and in the closet.
Like I said there were so many things that I had planned out to go a certain way. She is so much different than her sisters and brother. :) It's ok though.. I love her all the more for it! I know she is going to surprise me her whole life! :)
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You just never know.
Just be careful with the recliner though. Make sure there's no gaps for her to get lost (like the phone). :)
Have you tried propping up with lots of pillows in the bed in her room? Lorelei liked sleeping on top of my chest with me propped up on pillows. Maybe she'd think it was the recliner?
Lorelei has a queen sized bed in her room. Have you thought of side-caring her crib to make extra room in the bed and act as a bed rail?
http://www.freewebs.com/sidecarcrib/index.htm
She's not high need... just snuggly. :)
Oh yes I make sure she can't get lost I roll up a blanket next to me and she is on that as well as my arm. Oh I have a queen in my room and its just me in that bed. Her daddy has his own room that he shares with Eddie Rey.
She does like sleeping on my chest as well Im going to have to try doing that!
I was the same way about the planned breastfeeding first after birth. I was able to breastfeed my little one about 1 hour after she was born via csection. But it was a rush rush thing cause it was 2 in the morning and the nurses wanted to "get" her in the nursery. I didn't want her in the nursery and it was in my birth plan but, everything changes when you have a csection! Not sure why. Needless to say they gave her a BOTTLE in the nursery ont once but TWICE! ya, loosers! That was also NOT in my birth plan. Then when they took her to my room FINALLY about 3 hours later. She had a BINKY in her mouth! Yah, a binky in her mouth and a HUGE WIDE piece of tape on her pram that had bold letters BREASTFEEDING! seriously, who in that hospital couldn't read??? Anyway, when I tried to BF her, she refused. She immediately latched in the recovery room and sucked away for a couple of minutes. but, 4 hours later, nothing! she wanted nothing to do with it. Found out later that day it was becuasse the "lovely" nurses in the nursery gave her a 4 ounce bottle of FORMULA! ya, there was a lot of yelling from me. A large amount out hysterical crying. I actually gave up on breastfeeding but 5 weeks after she was born realized I had made a big mistake and started building my milk back up and had to pump constantly. I pumped for the next 11 months and fed her BM in a bottle. NOTHING like I had planned at all!
There were multiple things like that with Ethan. I too had trouble with breastfeeding for many months. Although I did have to supplement some with formula until he was about 3 months old and then he didn't want any more formula. I'm glad I kept on going!
I'm happy to hear you had support and those who understood breastfeeding to give you the support you needed. I didn't have that.
Thanks for sharing, I think alot of pregnant women need to hear this and be prepared there will be things that don't go the way we think they will, but we still need to stick it out.
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